You Said "Yes" Now What?
Updated: May 28, 2019
The day of your dreams approaches and depending on how soon you’re getting hitched, determines the time you have to get all your ducks in a row. So the most important question is, where do I start? Don’t worry, all of us who’ve traveled this path already can testify about the stress. But guess what? It doesn’t have to be stressful.
My husband and I wedding experience gifted us valuable information! We learned things others neglected or maybe didn’t have a clue to tell us about. Whether you are in the beginning, middle or end of your planning phase, here are 5 helpful tips for guidance.
1. Create a budget
• Budgets keep your pockets on track and the reality of what’s affordable.
• Don’t go broke for one day of bliss for years of debt in exchange. According to marriage.com money issues is second on their top 10 reasons for divorce reasons. Save yourself from a doomed marriage before the start of the honeymoon, don’t overspend.
2. What type of wedding do you want and where?
• Destination weddings are pricey for everyone including guests. Think about passports, resorts, hotel and flight accommodations costs and factor these into your plans. In addition, please give the wedding party and guests a minimum of a year to prepare. But if planning an elopement, less notification is required, for a few or no guests will attend the ceremony anyway.
• Church weddings are religious and can be budget-friendly or expensive. Having church memberships has its benefits. Churches offer their members free of charge or discount access to the use the church facilities. However, always remember this is a church setting and rules of use will be held according to their religious beliefs. The music requirements non-secular music only and nonalcoholic beverages will determine whether a church wedding is a great fit for you.
• Court or justice of the peace is the cheapest and quickest way to go! Depending on your state requirements for marriage will determine the cost and time for finalization, but the cost is always affordable.
3. Big or a small wedding celebration?
• Remember the higher guest count creates higher cost. Many venues, caterers and other event services charge by guest count. This is understandable because more supplies, preparation, and planning are to be expected.
4. PPE is Plan, Prepare, and Execute!
• Put the right people in charge. Do you really want to decorate, cater, and coordinate your own wedding day? Well, we experienced it and it definitely wasn’t fun! The devil fought us every step of the way but we pulled thru with support of our family, friends, and wedding party who stepped in filling the void. As we reflected back on our experience, hiring a full-time event planner/designer along with our hired wedding coordinator would have made our day easier and less stressful.
5. Have a backup plan?
• Always have a plan B and I can never stress this enough! Things happen out of your control. Take our wedding, Hurricane Irma halted the delivery of the fresh flowers for centerpieces. We checked everywhere with no result of bulk fresh flowers. Thank God for Hobby Lobby’s 50% off on floral for saving our centerpieces. Makeup artist flaked out and good thing I had my own makeup and YouTube tutorials. I took the advice of my best friend to plan with a back plan. Her advice definitely came in handy helping to save our day.